Pause Purpose Play

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Imagine if you could follow your ambition without drowning in it – how much more fulfilling life would be? That’s what Pause Purpose Play is all about – finding balance over burnout by setting you free from needing to be perfect, so that you can take action and get started with what matters to you, instead of getting stuck in procrastination and holding yourself back with self-limiting beliefs your inner critic tells you. In this podcast, Michaela Thomas, Clinical Psychologist, Couples Therapist and founder of The Thomas Connection, shares bite-sized learning around psychology of performance, habits, self-confidence, stress, anxiety, perfectionism, parenthood and couples relationships. The podcast will mix solo episodes with guest interviews; diving deep into their professional zone of genius and learning about how they have found pause, purpose and play in their life and in their work. My new book, The Lasting Connection, is available now from all good bookshops.

Episodes

Thursday Jan 28, 2021

Be connected in your relationship, with Dr Tracy Dalgleish

Thursday Jan 28, 2021

In this week's conversation I talk to Dr. Tracy Dalgleish about how our attachment styles affect our relationship dynamics, and how we can change the patterns we fall into with our partner.

Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is a Clinical Psychologist and couples therapist who helps individuals and couples navigate the challenges we all face in our relationships and within ourselves to create a more meaningful life through therapy, wellness seminars, and her work outside of the therapy room. For over 15 years, Dr. Dalgleish has provided direct clinical services as well as researching, writing, and speaking about relationships. She provides psychological assessments, diagnosis, and individual and couple therapy for a variety of difficulties, including depression, anxiety, postpartum difficulties, stress and burnout, and relationship difficulties.

We talk about:

5:59 Interdependence

9:26 The 4 S's of social attachment - safety, security, seen and soothed

13:05 Turn taking in relationships

15:14 Incompatibility in attachment styles

19:50 Secure attachment

20:16 Anxious attachment

20:40 Avoidant attachment

21:39 Fearful or disorganised attachment

25:58 Being on the same team, when you're differently 'flammable'

29:40 Common cycles couples all into and how to break them

32:54 Toxic masculinity and emotional expression