Imagine if you could follow your ambition without drowning in it – how much more fulfilling life would be? That’s what Pause Purpose Play is all about – finding balance over burnout by setting you free from needing to be perfect, so that you can take action and get started with what matters to you, instead of getting stuck in procrastination and holding yourself back with self-limiting beliefs your inner critic tells you. In this podcast, Michaela Thomas, Clinical Psychologist, Couples Therapist and founder of The Thomas Connection, shares bite-sized learning around psychology of performance, habits, self-confidence, stress, anxiety, perfectionism, parenthood and couples relationships. The podcast will mix solo episodes with guest interviews; diving deep into their professional zone of genius and learning about how they have found pause, purpose and play in their life and in their work. My new book, The Lasting Connection, is available now from all good bookshops.
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Thursday Mar 31, 2022
Thursday Mar 31, 2022
“I’m not a perfectionist? I’m just ambitious and work hard. True, I’m overwhelmed and exhausted, but I can’t stop because then I won’t achieve anything and feel like a failure.”
I hear these thoughts a lot, about how overworking is seen as a pathway to success and achievement. With fear of failure if we develop self-care and self-compassion, taking a break.
In this episode, I dive into perfectionism, overworking, shame, high standards and fear of failure, and how we experience more joy when living an imperfect life, with a fellow expert on perfectionism: Jennifer Kemp.
Jennifer Kemp is a privately practicing Clinical Psychologist, author, and busy mum, who works with clients who are struggling with perfectionism and the mental health problems perfectionism facilitates and maintains. She is the author of The ACT Workbook for Perfectionism, integrates Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), behavioural, and Compassion-Focused approaches in her therapeutic and consultation work.
We cover:
- Perfectionism as a set of behaviours
- High standards as rigid rules
- Musts and shoulds create pressure
- Fear and avoidance of failing
- Self-criticism for mistakes
- Perfectionistic standards running in families
- Hope that we can change these patterns
- Short term relief vs. long term costs
- Checking and reassurance seeking
- Anxiety about being good enough
- Costs from overworking and avoidance
- Perfect, unattainable goals lead to failure
- Shame drives perfectionism, as discomfort we want to avoid
- Willingness to be uncomfortable with anxiety around mistakes
- Self-compassion as antidote to perfectionism
- Being a recovering perfectionist
- Perfectionism as umbrella to depression, anxiety and eating disorders
- Stepping out of the comfort zone
- Living an imperfect life that matters, following values that light you up
Find Jennifer at https://jenniferkemp.com.au/
Order my book, The Lasting Connection, here
Find out more about my upcoming group coaching for women who struggle with perfectionism and not feeling enough by messaging me - www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/contact-us/
Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk
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This episode was edited by Emily Crosby Media
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