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Rebel against good girl conditioning, with Michelle Minnikin

In this episode, I welcome guest Michelle Minnikin and we delve into the multifaceted realities of societal conditioning, gender expectations, and the unique challenges of living with ADHD. Listen in to hear Michelle discuss her new book, and the impact of 'Good Girl' conditioning and ADHD on women's lives.

 

01:41 Embracing ADHD and Personal Growth

03:46 Discovering Good Girl Conditioning

05:25 Coercive Control and Societal Expectations

06:41 Strategic Exhaustion and Daily Struggles

10:19 Imposter Syndrome and Workplace Challenges

20:46 Rebelling Against Good Girl Conditioning

28:21 Hope for the Next Generation

29:03 Navigating Personal Relationships

30:29 Household Dynamics and Gender Norms

32:34 ADHD and Neurodiversity

34:23 Self-Compassion and Personal Growth

39:39 Male Allies and Shared Responsibilities

39:47 Practical Advice for Women

42:11 The Power of Asking

 

Michelle Minnikin is a North East-based Chartered Organisational Psychologist, coach and author of Good Girl Deprogramming, available now from all good bookstores in paperback, e-book and on audible.

 

 

 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/mminnikin/

https://www.instagram.com/goodgirldeprogramming

https://www.tiktok.com/@michelleminnikin

https://www.michelleminnikin.com/

Being playful in your business - and in your life

In this episode of Pause Purpose Play I dive into the joy of bringing playfulness into our lives and businesses, especially for those of us navigating ADHD.

I share how embracing a playful mindset can lead to creativity and success, and why soothing our minds is key to achieving our goals.

Plus, learn about my group coaching program, Burn Bright, and how it could be your next step. Tune in for all the details and let's have some fun together!

01:04 The Importance of Deep, Sustainable Change

02:29 Embracing Playfulness in Business and Life

06:34 The Power of the Soothing System

08:51 Unlocking the Power of Play

09:47 Burn Bright Program

 

Burn Bright is my transformational 6-month group coaching programme that helps you continuously calibrate what you need for your brain and your body, to balance your business with your busy ADHD brain.

 

https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright

Reconnecting with WHY you run a business

In this episode I invite you to join me on a journey of self-discovery as we explore the essence of purpose in our lives.

I share personal reflections and insights from the 'Sustainable Success Challenge,' where we delve into understanding our 'why' and celebrate the unique perks and challenges of entrepreneurship for those of us with ADHD.

01:20 Understanding Purpose and Pain

03:02 The Entrepreneurial Why

04:28 Setting Boundaries and Protecting Energy

05:24 Flexibility in Business for Neurodivergent Entrepreneurs

06:50 Insights and Actions for Sustainable Success

08:03 Personal Reflections and Podcast Direction

10:45 Burn Bright doors are open!

 

Burn Bright is my transformational 6-month group coaching programme that helps you continuously calibrate what you need for your brain and your body, to balance your business with your busy ADHD brain.

 

https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright

Pause to notice how ADHD impacts your business

In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, I'm diving into the wild world of ADHD and entrepreneurship and sharing some golden nuggets from my Sustainable Success Challenge. We'll chat about why pausing is crucial to avoid burnout and how those quirky ADHD traits can be both your superpower and your kryptonite in business.

Plus, I'm inviting you to join me for some amazing upcoming events - whether you're more of an online binge-watcher or a face-to-face lunch enthusiast. Let's explore this together and find the balance we all crave!

00:26 Sustainable Success Challenge Insights

02:35 Invitation to In-Person Meetup

04:14 Challenges of ADHD in Entrepreneurship

09:05 Balancing Passion and Practicality

10:57 The Importance of Pausing and Self-Compassion

11:44 Upcoming Events

Bend, before you break - flexibility and high-performance with Prof Ross White

In this episode I'm joined by Ross White, fresh off the release of his fantastic new book, 'The Tree That Bends: How a Flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive.'

 

We dive headfirst into the pool of psychological flexibility, discussing its unique edge over concepts like grit, toughness, and resilience. Ross unpacks the importance of balancing our 'get,' 'threat,' and 'reset' modes to keep burnout at bay.

 

With practical tips, playful metaphors, and Ross's authentic vulnerability, this episode offers a refreshing approach to thriving in both work and life.

 

Grab your headphones and get ready to bend without breaking!

 

00:48 Exploring Psychological Flexibility

03:15 Defining Resilience, Toughness, and Grit

09:04 The Metaphor of the Tree

10:15 Modes of Operation: Get, Threat, and Reset

14:24 Momentary and Bold Moves

18:16 Personal Experiences and Vulnerability

23:49 The Comfort Zone vs. The Transforming Zone

28:06 Navigating Career Breaks and Sabbaticals

35:58 Balancing Productivity and Longevity

41:32 The Role of Attention and Mindfulness

46:01 Anchoring Statements and Staying Present

Safe to slow down and still be successful

In this special episode of the 'Pause Purpose Play' podcast I decided to step out of my comfort zone and record live on Instagram!

 

Join me as I chat about the scary but oh-so-important idea of feeling safe to slow down while still aiming high. With my trusty 'I'm not perfect' jumper and my ADHD quirks in full swing, I dive into how pushing through nonstop isn't the answer, how to avoid burnout and share practical tips for regulating our frazzled nervous systems.

 

Plus, I'm inviting you to join my upcoming 4-day 'Sustainable Success Challenge' for female business owners starting September 24th. 

 

01:48 The Importance of Slowing Down

03:10 Sustainability and Success

04:08 September Reset

05:14 Embracing Imperfection

06:58 Interactive Q&A

09:33 Practical Tips for Nervous System Regulation

11:11 Upcoming Sustainable Success Challenge

 

Consume less, create more - done is better than perfect

In this episode of Pause Purpose Play, I dive into the vibrant world of creativity for those with ADHD. I chat about how our brilliant, busy brains are naturally wired for imaginative thinking and how we can harness that spark.

 

I share my own quirks and experiences to remind us that done is better than perfect and why it's more fun to create than to endlessly scroll through raccoon videos. Plus, I'll sprinkle in some tips on how to allow yourself the joy of being a little more imperfect!

 

Join me, and maybe even sign up for my free Sustainable Success challenge if you're ready for more creativity and less comparison in your life. 

 

00:31 The Role of Creativity in ADHD

01:42 Perfectionism vs. Creativity

04:35 The Impact of Consumption on Creativity

08:59 Commitment to Creativity

15:43 Upcoming Sustainable Success Challenge!

 

The Power of Compassionate Curiosity for ADHD

Dive into the whimsical world of curiosity and discover how it can transform your personal and professional life! Int his episode I take you on an adventure through the curiosity mindset, the beginner's mindset, and compassionate curiosity. 

 

00:00 Unlocking the Power of Curiosity

00:57 The Beginner's Mindset

01:19 Compassionate Curiosity

01:54 Applying Curiosity in Life

02:19 Access to Work Grant Challenges

03:15 Personal Experience with Access to Work

04:08 Upcoming Events and Workshops

Preventing burnout with Dr Claire Plumbly

This week I'm joined by the brilliant Dr Claire Plumbly, who shares her exciting journey of writing her first book on burnout, diving into how chronic stress can really take a toll on our minds and bodies. With practical tips on managing burnout, recognising internal pressures, and practicing self-care, this episode is packed with useful advice! 

 

 

01:28 The Concept of Burnout

01:44 Writing the Book: Inspiration and Challenges

02:26 Understanding Burnout as Trauma

06:15 Recognising Burnout Symptoms

08:04 The Three C's for Nervous System Health

12:27 High-Functioning Burnout

13:29 Practical Tips for Managing Burnout

32:13 Entrepreneurship and Burnout

38:31 Connecting with Others and Finding Support

 

Do you feel overwhelmed? Too busy to stop? Resisting slowing down?

Then you need a break, before you break!

Download my free guide to help you spot the signs of overwhelm, learn simple ways of slowing down, and understanding what’s getting in the way of you giving yourself the permission to rest and recover. 

https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/calm/

 

About Dr Claire Plumbly:

 

Claire is a Clinical Psychologist & Director of Good Therapy Ltd, a psychological therapy centre based online and in Taunton, Somerset. Her private practice specialises in trauma-related issues and Claire herself has a specialism in sexual assault; early life traumas, and of course burnout.

Her debut book ‘Burnout: How to Manage Your Nervous System Before It Manages You’ is out in the UK this summer. It will show you how to harness the power of your nervous system, despite the persistent demands of modern life.

 

Forms, finances and random f*ckery for ADHD business women, part 3

We're diving into a topic close to my heart: the chaotic world of unfinished projects that seem to plague us ADHD-ers. I share a laugh-and-cry kind of story from our amazing ADHD Club, and together we explore some fun and practical ways to finally get things done.

 

I also chat about the importance of self-compassion, managing impulse control, and why taking breaks is your secret weapon against burnout. Plus, stick around till the end because I've got a special freebie to help you tackle those dreaded Access to Work forms!

 

So, if you want to turn your chaos into calm, hit play and let's get started!

 

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

01:07 Understanding ADHD and Unfinished Projects

03:52 Real-Life Example of ADHD Challenges

06:29 Strategies to Tackle Unfinished Projects

11:14 Community Support and Encouragement

15:05 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Events